the past. ever find yourself living in the world of “if only” — wishing things could have been different? if only . . . if only. . . if only . . .
life has its disappointments, its defeats, its distractions. regrets.
regret – feeling of sorrow, remorse, a sense of loss, disappointment, dissatisfaction
regrets. mistakes. foolish choices. decisions made that we wish we could take back.
i have spent more than my share of time in the world of “if only” — sometimes playing it over and over in my mind.
regrets are normal. experiences are real. both are a part of life. and there is no rewind button. reflecting over choices, decisions, and learning from the past is a good thing – just don’t get stuck in it. i have had to choose to walk away when “if only” rears its ugly head because i know the source of this self-blame, this wanting to control my thinking, is wanting to distract me – to turn my focus away from the only One who can heal my past and holds my future.
the choices and decisions of others have sent me into the world of “if only” — what if i had parented differently? what if i had said no? what if i had said yes? what if i had stood up, instead of being quiet? what if. . . what if. . . regrets, blame, all stemming from genuine love, care, and concern for those close to me. it’s taken a lot of being knocked down, looking up into the eyes of Jesus, to learn to let go and trust. to know someone else’s decisions are not my fault. it’s still hard —- it’s a daily giving those thoughts to my Redeemer.
intentional. doing this can only bring joy – not regret!
We demolish arguments and every high-minded thing that is raised up against the knowledge of God, taking every thought captive to obey Christ. ~ 2 Corinthians 10:5